Comedian’s know all about trust; trust me! haha. Now my business means I travel around a lot; and I pick up all sorts of dating and seduction advice while I’m gigging in places like New York, Los Angeles, and Lousiana. I mean if you can’t find me at the Upright Citizen’s Brigade(UCB) Theatre, I often have shows in LA and New York too. So be sure to attend my upcoming standup comedy show: http://www.sharepointcomic.com/attend-my-upcoming-show-the-lovingly-seductive-standup/
But anyway, on with the blog!
Trust is one of the most essential foundations of every kind of human relationship. And women put so much importance to it that I believe it is more difficult to earn a woman’s trust than it is to earn that of a man’s. It is so difficult to earn that sometimes, even pure honesty and sincerity may fall short. Well, here’s a guide on meeting women from SIBG.com (Matt Ganz).
Earn her trust
So whether you’re trying to earn her trust for romantic pursuits, business, or plain good ol’ friendship, because it is very important that it be founded on trust, here are some tips on how to make her trust you.
To start with, always, always be genuine. Do not use fancy words. Speak from your heart, speak what is in your mind and don’t try to dress your words up. Say it the way you would actually say it; saying it in words that are not familiar to you or in words that you don’t use in regular conversations would mask your words in pretense and will make it less believable. So always let your heart do the talking for you. The rawness of words, no matter how vulnerable it makes you seem, will be appreciated and hopefully reciprocated with her precious trust.
It’s important to listen to her. Listen intently to what she has to say, for it holds the keys and secrets to how to win her. Her words may even tell her why she can’t trust you and what you can do to change her thoughts about it. Listening to her will make her feel secure and confident around you; her talking to you about something – no matter how mundane and unimportant – is already a good sign that she is willing to trust you. Value that opportunity and lend her your ears.
And be sure to give her your trust too. Give her your trust to earn hers. It’s simple. If a woman sees that you are baring yourself to her in utmost honesty, she will think that you deserve her honesty and trust. Give her something to hold on to when she bares herself open to you.
Remember to act appropriately around her. What causes women to distrust a certain man is when he shows her that he abused another woman’s trust on him. SO if you gossip around her about other people, or tell her lame but personal and intimate things about some ex, her logic would tell her that you are going to do the same to her and you wouldn’t be worth the littlest amount of her trust.
Finally but very importantly, don’t lie nor keep secrets from her. Keeping a secret means that you do not trust her; lying to her is the ultimate betrayal of her trust. If you show her any of these actions even before she gets to give you her trust will make you lose it forever. So don’t even think about lying about the smallest things; trust me, she can and would sense it.